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5 Pounds of Honey

Last week was my department’s annual Yankee Swap, a tradition that I myself started years ago to fill the camaraderie void in our holiday lunch left by the lack of alcohol. Despite being the Swap’s progenitor and facilitator, every year I get seriously screwed gift-wise. It’s enough to smash my faith in the gift economy.

During this year’s Swap, I started out with a “Don’t Break the Bottle” Wooden Wine Puzzle, which I promptly swapped for a bottle of limoncello lemon liqueur. Perhaps my downfall was going after a covetable present, for the limoncello was promptly taken away from me and I ended up with a stuffed gopher golf club cover. Underwhelmed, I then engaged in a serious of unofficial afterhours swaps — the gopher for a jar of peanut butter and a jar of jelly, which I swapped for the wine puzzle (again!), and finally the wine puzzle for a tin of peppermint bark.

Oh god, peppermint bark. Just what a health-conscious woman in her early 30s wants: Milk chocolate mixed with white chocolate and topped with ground candy canes. “A minute on the lips, a lifetime on the hips.” I vowed to place the tin in the kitchen area for the department to enjoy/take off my lips and hips. Since everyone was stuffed from the holiday lunch, I decided to wait until Monday.

So today when I got to work, the peppermint bark weighed heavy on my mind. Despite an extensive breakfast of toast and neufchatel, the previous two days of XC skiing and snow shoveling had revved my appetite into overdrive, and when I placed the peppermint bark tin in the kitchen area, my hand reached out and broke off a huge chunk before I scuttled back to my desk.

“Why did I do that?” I asked myself. It was 8:30am, and there I was, nibbling on the peppermint bark with little sighs of contentment. An hour later, my ration of bark was gone and I needed more tea. I headed to the kitchen area and noticed that less than half of the bark remained. Again, my hand reached out and broke off another chunk of bark.

“Why did I do that?” I asked myself, again. The second-helping of peppermint bark steadily disappeared from my paper towel. The sugar did wonders for my morale. I may be in the office, heaping concentration upon my work until my brain sweated, but at least I had peppermint bark.

Ten minutes after I finished my second helping of peppermint bark, a co-worker dropped by with a dark chocolate snowman as a Christmas present. My mouth had the taste of sugar in it. I unwrapped the snowman, smashed its hollow vessel, and fed myself chocolate shards for the next hour. By then it was 11am, and I had probably eaten an entire RDA of calories in candy.

After a cleansing lunch of flatbread with hummus and cucumbers, a co-worker came by and invited me to a cake celebration for a departing co-worker. What, am I going to be the skinny bitch who goes to a goodbye party and refuses cake? So I ate a slice of thick, heavy cake. My blood sugar surged into my skull like a spurting oil well.

The sugar binge reminded me of when bears happen upon a beehive. It’s rare for a bear to actually encounter a beehive, but when they do, they are capable of eating up to 5 pounds of honey in one sitting. Some days, particularly cold snow-filled days leading up to a holiday, you gotta go for the sugar. You just gotta go for the 5 pounds of honey.

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Ski Storm!

Friday’s storm dropped 12 inches of fluffy dry powder on Boston. Today another 6 inches of granular flakes fell throughout the afternoon. Everyone groaned about the inconvenience of it all during the apex of the Holiday season, but when we see snow, we think: XC Ski!

It was a relief to be able to ski locally at the Middlesex Fells reservation, a 10-minute drive from our home, as opposed to driving to New Hampshire and spending an entire day skiing ourselves into muscular oblivion in order to justify the trip time. We could just dig out our skis, dig out our driveway, and drive to the Fells to spend 2-3 hours puttering around the miles of woodsy trails that weave through the large scenic reservoirs. For free!

Anyone who professes to hate the snow has obviously not spent any time in a snow-filled forest. You may hate the icy roads and sidewalks, the slushy sludge piles, the inconvenience of a mid-day storm, but you cannot hate a pine tree with snow clinging to its branches or the peacefulness of snowflakes falling onto a frozen lake. We went skiing on both Saturday and Sunday, and probably saw 50 other people on skis and snowshoes, and every single one of them had a crazy happy grin on their face because skiing through a forest while the snow is falling is one of the best feelings in the world.

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2008: Nothing Changes But the Calendar

I loathe the obligatory year-end blog post—that tired tradition of droll reflection and forced optimism. I’m at that age (31!?!) where New Year’s feels less like a fresh start and more like a bureaucratic reset. Sure, I’ll never turn down a reason to clink a champagne flute or make out with my new husband at midnight. But the sentiment’s been soured by the creeping awareness that time is just a human trick—an agreed-upon construct to keep trains running on time. January 1st is just a checkpoint on an endless loop. Nothing really changes, except I get older, people get dumber, the world gets louder, and both my regrets and the weather grow more extreme.

That said, 2008 wasn’t half bad. My work life leveled out—two solid tech writing gigs and a reliable rotation of three-day weekends. I married a truly wonderful man and celebrated not once, but thrice: with my family in Pennsylvania, with his in France, and just the two of us in Spain. The credit crisis didn’t eat my savings, and homeownership no longer feels like a pipe dream. And—for the first time in eight years—I feel something dangerously close to hope for this country.

So I’ll end this last post of the year without a “Top Ten” list, mostly because I’m currently incapable of judging whether anything I write is even comprehensible, let alone good. Wait for next year (she promises, again, with excellent intentions and questionable follow-through).

In the meantime, here’s to a warm, fuzzy New Year. And in 2009, I hope you go after what you want—loudly, boldly, maybe even a little sneakily. Dream bigger. Get messier. Be wild and audacious and deeply unserious. As Mick told Rocky, “You’re gonna eat lightning, and you’re gonna crap thunder.”

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First Snow Storm

They predicted this winter’s first snow storm would start at 3pm today, and they were close because it was 2:15pm when the first flakes wafted down from the gray, hushed sky. I was walking to Walgreens. The traffic on the streets neared rush-hour volume; no one wanted to risk getting snarled in a snowy commute like last year’s notorious mid-day storm when everyone left their offices after the heavy snow had started. We learn from our mistakes, if we remember them.

I needed to buy Christmas cards. I considered taking the bus to Cambridge and buying fancy boxed cards at Papyrus, but that normally quick errand could potentially take hours during a snow rush. So I headed to Walgreens, admitting total defeat for this year’s Christmas card ambitions, which started so high. I planned to print photos from the wedding and send them to the appropriate guests. I planned a card that featured our wedding portrait. I planned, and planned, and then never followed through with any plans, and now there were 4 more postal service days until Christmas and my stack of unanswered Christmas cards tormented my inner etiquette-minder.

Walgreens is packed. The free-standing pharmacy with a sizable parking lot is the closest thing our town has to a big-box store, although the whole building could fit into the health and beauty section of a typical Target. People are buying milk and bread, presumably in anticipation of getting snowed into their homes for the next week. The Christmas aisle is also crowded, mostly with women picking through the gift wrap. I myself grab some tissue paper and a few festive gift bags, because there is no better opportunity to wrap presents than during a pre-Christmas snow storm.

There is a long line at the two cash registers in the front of Walgreens. The overweight woman in front of me is buying an insane amount of junk food. I scan the contents of her carriage, fascinated and repelled by her storm provisions — various bags of chips, Hostess cupcakes, two boxes of donuts, yogurt-covered pretzels, Combos, a case of generic orange soda, and numerous cans of beef stew and ravioli. I realize she is doing her grocery shopping in Walgreens. I try like hell not to judge her, because I’m buying my Christmas cards at Walgreens, and that’s a definite chink in my elitist armor.

The snow is falling in earnest as I walk home. A little gurgle of excitement bubbles in my stomach. I don’t know why I should be excited about being snowed in on a Friday night, but I guess it’s because my house is warm, my kitchen is stocked with virtuous foods like turnips and lentils, and my Christmas cards will be finished before the end of the storm.

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Adventures in Discount Acupuncture, Session #3

If you saw M. on the street, you’d probably peg her as a veterinarian, not an acupuncturist. She’s a faded blond gracefully in her early 40s, trim and sensible with a soft-spoken kindness. She mentioned tonight that she’s going to Minnesota for the holidays, presumably to visit a large family who is supportive but bemused at M.’s chosen career path as a practitioner of traditional Chinese medicine in the liberal den of Cambridge (or so my dramatic imagination speculates.)

Every week, M. starts out by inquiring about my health in the past week. I’m encouraged to keep track off every bodily aberrance: Were my hands and feet cold? How was my appetite? Any moodiness? Did I feel dizzy when I got out of bed in the morning? I am unaccustomed to anyone caring about my state of being to this degree, and it feels rude to allow the conversation to always dwell upon my ailments. My natural instinct is to reciprocate M.’s interest by inquiring about her health, her sleeping habits, her musculoskeletal discomforts. But that would be improper, so I consciously remind myself to be self-centered and freely share the details of my ongoing cold.

“A sore throat, coughing, congestion,” I tell M., who is writing down what I say. She wants to know everything: Is it a scratchy, dry sore throat? Or a painful, hurts-to-swallow sore throat? Where is the congestion? How often is the cough? What color is the phlegm? How often do I get colds? How long do they last? I secretly bask in M.’s attention, for her sympathetic manner makes me feel as though someone really, really cares about my humdrum case of the winter sniffles.

“We’ll do something tonight to take care of your cold,” M. says, which amazes me a bit. In the past month I’ve read a lot about acupuncture, but never any claims that it could help with colds. M. proceeded to stick 10 needles in me: 4 in my wrists, 5 in my feet and ankles, and 1 in my lower arm. I still have not looked at the needles while they are in my skin, but I trust M. when she tells me “They’re not all that interesting to look at.”

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Movie Reviews: Happy-Go-Lucky — Quantum of Solace — W.

Poppy is happy. Really happy. Like, when her bicycle in stolen from the streets of London, she cheerfully decides to use the opportunity as an impetus for learning to drive. (Compare this to my blind fury when my bike seat was stolen). Nothing gets Poppy down. Not the rudeness of people who don’t respond to Poppy’s unflagging smiles and laughs, not the patronizing pity of friends who don’t comprehend Poppy’s source of inner strength, not even the paranoid racist ranting of her loose cannon driving instructor can loosen Poppy’s determination to be happy. Happy-Go-Lucky is engrossing, fascinating, and utterly feel-good. I cannot remember ever before leaving a movie theatre, making vows to myself like “I will smile more. I will joke with strangers. I will be a happier person.”

James Bond is vengeful. Really vengeful. Like, he’s still not over the death of Vespa, the fetching Bond girl from the previous movie. What’s up with that? Since when does James Bond dwell on dead ex-girlfriends when there’s a potential new girlfriend helping him usurp a weasely villain determined to bilk Bolivia of its water rights? And since when does M follow James Bond around the world to assist in investigations and appear in every other freaking scene? And since when does the only new technology in a James Bond film consist of a fancy touch-screen computer that’s one step above what the election analysts on CNN had? Luckily, the storyline moves so fast and the action flies so furious that these details are not as distracting as the fact that James Bond is still, alas, a blonde.

George W. Bush is dumb. Really dumb. Like, as dumb as you suspect. You don’t need to watch Oliver Stone’s interpretation of how dumb he is. You don’t need to reaffirm your suspicions that W. is nothing but a privileged frat-boy eff-up pining for the affection and approval of his daddy. You’ve survived 8 years of his cataclysmic presidency, and the last thing you need is to spend 2 LONG BORING hours picking over the who, what, why, and how of it.

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Happy Rainbow Christmas House

We received the “Make Your Own Gingerbread House Kit” as a pre-Christmas present, and at first I had suspicions that it may have been a re-gift, because doesn’t it just seem like something that would be a perpetual regift? Regardless, the opportunity to be creative in the particular way that constructing and decorating a gingerbread house necessitates does not arise very often, and I took it as a challenge to my aging and flabby right-brain to build an aestically-pleasing gingerbread house that any gingerbread man would be proud to call home, especially if he was gay pride gingerbread man.

First things first: I don’t like gingerbread. Nor do I like any of the gumdrop ornamentation that was included in the kit. Nor do I find the icing, which came as 20 ounces of powder that mixed with water to form a sticky paste that was exceedingly difficult to work with, in the slightest way appetizing. So the only errant temptation experienced during the construction had nothing to do with nibbling at the roof or squirting icing into my mouth. No, my desire was to smash the thing to smithereens when the roof refused to adhere to the walls, or when the gumdrops slid off of the walls, or when the icing somehow got in my hair.

The final gingerbread house looks nothing like the suggested artisanal designs included in the instructions that were called things like “Candlelight Cottage” and “Gumdrop Manor.” So I will call it “Happy Rainbow Christmas House”, because it’s sheer Christmasness allows us to feel safe forgoing a tree for another year and allowing the gingerbread house to stand as a testament to our festive spirit.

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In Which CVS Pharmacy Exercises Routine Torture Via Phone

I’ve been receiving periodic automated phone calls from CVS pharmacy. They come on weekday mornings when I’m at work. The “PRIVATE” display on the caller ID piques my interest. Of course, it’s calls from PRIVATE phone numbers that should never be answered, but I’m a sucker for mystery.

“Hello?” I’ll venture. A beat of silence. Then, “Hello, this is a courtesy call from CVS pharmacy. Your photo order is ready to be picked up at the CVS pharmacy at 200 Massachusetts Avenue…” At that point I’ll hang up and think, “Gee, I hope that’s the last one of those.” Because I already picked up my photos nearly two months ago.

Yet the automated calls persisted, so I realized that they are like an urinary tract infection — not gonna go away on their own — and decided to call CVS and complain. I was reluctant to do this. I have no qualms contacting companies or institutions with whom I have an ongoing financial affiliation, but CVS? Those are the people who sell me cough drops and deodorant. It seemed awkward to advance our relationship into the realm of telephony customer service.

I dialed the CVS toll-free number while sitting at my desk, watching a gigantic MS Word document convert to PDF. After picking my way through a series of voice menus with increasing irrelevance to my ultimate objective (“To change your prescription pick-up time…” “To reorder a CVS Extra Care card…”), a kindly robot voice instructed me to hang on the line for the next available representative. And then the On Hold music began.

CVS’s On Hold music is the impetus for this post, because it is the most auditorily disagreeable On Hold music ever: A computerized succession of twangy chords, repeated over and over again with no variation or dynamics, just a constant droning refrain specifically engineered to induce caller abandonment. Anything with a voice, melody, cadence would have been an improvement. Gimme Kenny G, Chicago, or Alvin and the Chipmucks instead. Even muzak at least would have had retro appeal. I tried holding the phone away from my ear, but then a recorded voice would interrupt to reassure me of the importance of my call, and I’d hastily draw the phone to my ear — “Hello?”– only to be serenaded with more vile On Hold music.

After 10 minutes (about when I convinced myself that I could live with the periodic automated calls reminding me to pick up my photos), a customer service rep came on the line. She was helpful enough. She said that she would put my phone number on some internal “do not call” list and apologized for any inconvenience that this ordeal has caused me. “Is there anything else I can help you with?” she said.

“Actually, I just wanted to make a comment,” I said. “Your On Hold music? The music that played while I was waiting to talk to you? It’s, like, really bad,” I said. I tried to sound congenial, but given what I was saying, my words dripped with snark.

She gave a short laugh. “Oh yeah? I’ve actually never heard it, myself.”

“Well, trust me, it’s really annoying, and I think you should tell someone to change it,” I said.

“We understand that –”

“Okay, then, thanks a lot, bye!” I said, losing my nerve to continue being priggish to a poor customer service rep and hanging up. I never would have done that while talking to Bank of America or American Express, but CVS? Eh, who cares.

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The Wrong Way to Eat a Peanut Butter Cup

I was regaling Mr. P with a story about an acquaintance. The story is not worth repeating in its entirety, except to say that it involved Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups. “You know what a peanut butter cup is, yes?” I asked Mr. P, who shrugged. “Omigod, you don’t know what a peanut butter cup is!” Floored, I stopped telling my mundane story in order to meticulously elucidate the structure and usage of the peanut butter cup. Form follows function, deliciously.

Moments like these, when I realize that my husband and I have completely different frame of references through which we view the world, are not uncommon. I can live with his utter ignorance about Star Wars, The Wizard of Oz, This is Spinal Tap, The Facts of Life, Alf, early 90s Saturday Night Live characters, the board game Clue, Slip ‘N Slides, and Reagan-era politics. But peanut butter cups? To have never run your tongue along the crimped edges of the cup before nibbling the disk of milk chocolate and having an explosion of salty, sweet, and savory rock your tastebuds in perfect flavor harmony?

When Mr. P hears the words “peanut butter,” he reacts in typical continental European fashion: He grimaces and grips his stomach, as if the mere thought of peanut butter reeks havoc on his refined digestive system. I believe he tried peanut butter once and didn’t like the taste nor how it stuck to the insides of his mouth. I can picture him, totally defenseless against the sticky peanut paste clinging to his gums, as helpless as a kitten with a strip of duct tape across its back.

My national pride reared as I watched him go through these motions. I’m not a huge fan of peanut butter myself, but years as a pennywise vegetarian has bestowed a certain respect for the humble, nutritive, Earth-friendly stuff. “So, you find peanut butter to be hard on your stomach, but triple creme 75% fat cheese is just fine. Nutella is perfectly normal food. And spreadable meat paste made out of animal liver is just delightful. But a butter made of out ground peanuts? How revolting.”

I bought a package of Newman’s Own Organics Peanut Butter Cups, intent on inducting my husband into the cult of the peanut butter cup. He found them tasty enough, but the moment was not overwhelmed by any great outpouring of enthusiasm. In fact, as I bit into my peanut butter cup, I realized that it wasn’t really as great as I had been blabbering about. Perhaps a romanticism has been manufactured by fond childhood memories and stealthy television advertising. It’s chocolate and peanut butter, after all. It’s just candy.

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Adventures in Discount Acupuncture, Session #2

M. seems a tiny bit surprised to see me again. I believe I was flagrantly disoriented at the end of last week’s acupuncture session and did not display requisite enthusiasm to inspire confidence of my return. I have vague recollections of scheduling tonight’s appointment while fumbling socks onto my feet and gutting the contents of my purse in search of my wallet, all the while my body buzzed with the unblocked energy that soared through its meridans. “Yeah, yeah, next week sure…” I muttered, counting money for her payment. I felt as flaky as a hippie meditating in a granola factory.

By nature I’m a skeptic when it comes to alternative medicines. I do believe that positive thinking, stress reduction, and the power of the placebo can trump corporate-sponsored science, but there are limits. Hyponosis will never supplant immunization, and Zimbabwe’s cholera epidemic will not be stemmed with guided imagery. That being said, the results of my first treatment of acupuncture pleasantly surprised me. My major compliant saw some remedy, and the promised side benefits — better sleep, calmed mood — were evident, at least until the weekend.

So I returned again to roll up my sleeves, my shirt, and my pant legs, bearing my skin to M.’s needles. I believe she used 8 needles this week, although I cannot be sure because I still haven’t mustered the courage to look at the needles while they are in my body. As I lay on the table for 30 minutes to allow the needles to work, I did feel a little of the same foggy disorientation as last week. But not as much. This is significant, right? The acupuncture must be doing something if my body is affected differently from week to week. Right?

Still, I didn’t feel the sleepy relaxation that many practiced punctureers swear to. I lay on the table, vaguely energized and musing on the word “puncture,” which is one of those words that just gets me. It’s almost onomatopoeic, in that I can imagine hearing a needle make a little noise that sounds like “puncture” when it pierces the skin. The “acu” prefix does redeem it somewhat of its fright by implying that it’s accurate, precise, targeted puncture. Much more reassuring than “circumpuncture,” “pseudopuncture,” or “mispuncture.”

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