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Stuck on Traffic

The traffic on my commute is moderately inconsistent. Some days I crawl along the roadways in a steady stream of vehicles, locked into a speed and place like a segment of a centipede. Other rush hours, the roads are eerily wanting of cars, and I wonder what happened to the herd. Is everyone working late, or did they leave early? I feel like a fool either way as I slip around the highway, luxuriating in the space like a muumuu.

Traffic affects me emotionally. I was a confirmed pedestrian for ten years; to transition from walking everywhere to a one-hour daily car commute required a paradigm shift that my brain has yet to accept. I don’t look at other cars and see disembodied cars; I see people who are driving cars. And when someone tailgates me mercilessly, or pulls out in front of me, or doesn’t yield to me in a rotary, I feel personally affronted. Because behind the cloak of anonymity afforded by 2-10 tons of steel and rubber, there is a person — perhaps being rude, perhaps imperiling my life. Similar behavior by a fellow pedestrian on a sidewalk would be considered sociopathic.

Today at 6:15pm, I was driving home from work in relatively light traffic. I pulled off the highway and hit a bottleneck of two lanes merging into one lane in stop-and-go traffic. Everyone knows the protocol for this scenario: the lanes join together like a zipper, one car from the left lane, one car from the right lane, etc. Because that’s one of the hundreds of little societal rules that just makes sense. So I was in the right lane, preparing to merge into the left lane behind a Toyota Corolla (thank God behind it, right?) but the Jeep Cherokee beside me wasn’t relinquishing any space for my car. With each inch of traffic, the lanes converged and I stubbornly tried to assert my rightful place behind the Corolla. The Jeep and I were quite close to rubbing up against each other, and I wanted to yell out my window, “What’s wrong with you, sociopath? Merge like a zipper!”

The Jeep finally yielded to me, probably because my car was positioned one foot in front of the Jeep, thus making him legally liable for any vehicular contact. He rode my ass for 2 miles of pure gridlock, and when the lanes divided he roared past me, accelerating furiously towards a red light. “Don’t take it personally,” I counsel myself like a crazy person. “He doesn’t know you. He just drives like a douche. What a douche.”

There is no traffic in car commercials. It is just one car, speeding down a road, barreling through the outdoors, or parked conveniently. It is one car, driving into emptiness.

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A check… is in the mail?

Is it bizarre that, whenever I fetch the mail from the dingy wall-mounted letter box on our front porch, that I secretly thrill to the hope that someone sent me money? Even though my paycheck is direct deposit, even when it’s not my birthday or Christmas, even if the government would no sooner send us a check than it would send Ahmadinejad a fresh fruit basket, I still cling to the absurd aspiration that there will be a check, in the mailbox, for me.

Surely this is a sickness.

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Ernest Entertainment

Last night after dinner, I had a choice: Watch the Oscar ceremony, or make sizable headway into For Whom the Bell Tolls by Ernest Hemingway, which I am reading out of the pure abject shame of not yet having the pleasure.

Initially I choose the Oscars. Yes, I am ashamed. I watched ridiculous celebrities decked out in peacockery, many of dubious talents, earnestly honor each other while the camera perpetually panned the bored-looking audience in search of reaction. Every category is predictable. Why, I haven’t seen 80% of the nominated movies/performances, and my guesses were scarily accurate. The affair was redeemed somewhat by the comedic riffing of Steve Martin (who plays a mean banjo) but I started to drift off right around the Oscar for Best Make-up. I mean, really, life is just too frigging short.

So I picked up For Whom the Bell Tolls. I am enjoying it immensely, owing completely to Hemingway’s masterfully sparse use of language. He is the opposite of me, in that he can go entire chapters without using an adverb. When his language does flourish, it is simple and poetic, like in the following sex scene (which adroitly obscures any dirtiness while retaining the obvious sensuality):

Where there had been roughness of fabric all was smooth with a smoothness and firm rounded pressing and a long warm coolness, cool outside and warm within, long and light and closely holding, closely held, lonely, hollow-making with contours, happy-making, young and loving and now all warmly smooth with a hollowing, chest-aching, tight-held loneliness.

I wonder how Hemingway would have written this passage if he were writing today? The strict literary morality of his times weighed heavily on Hemingway’s prose; his more informal writing is rift with sex and blasphemy, and infinitely more entertaining because of it.

The most essential gift for a good writer is a built-in, shock-proof, shit detector. This is the writer’s radar and all great writers have had it. (in the Paris Review)

If you can’t say fornicate can you say copulate or if not that can you say co-habit? If not that would have to say consummate I suppose. Use your own good taste and judgment. (letter to editor of Esquire magazine)

In Europe then we thought of wine as something as healthy and normal as food and also as a great giver of happiness and well-being and delight. Drinking wine was not a snobbism nor a sign of sophistication nor a cult; it was as natural as eating and to me as necessary. (A Moveable Feast)

To me heaven would be a big bull ring with me holding two barrera seats and a trout stream outside that no one else was allowed to fish in and two lovely houses in the town; one where I would have my wife and children and be monogamous and love them truly and well and the other where I would have my nine beautiful mistresses on nine different floors. (letter to F. Scott Fitzgerald)

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Reaganomics

My loathing of former President Ronald Reagan is epic. I can’t really back up my feelings about Reagan with a fact-based assessment of his political performance, impact, or legacy, but I’ve always clung to the notion that I would be a very different person had I not spent my formative years as a Reagan Youth. Like, I’d be successful and shit.

So I need not waste words elucidating my thoughts about the Republican Congressman from North Carolina who is spearheading a bill to put Ronald Reagan on the $50 bill (here). Come on, Congressman… is this really about honoring The Gipper? Or is this just a scheme to dishonor the hated Ulysses S Grant — commander of the Northern Union army during the Civil War — by removing his face from our monetary supply and thus further from our public consciousness, so that the South may finally rise again?

It’s fitting that Ronald Reagan’s likeness adorn a somewhat rarefied and elite bill. But it’s unfortunate for me, because if I ever spied that smug mug in my wallet, I would probably have to burn it.

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I Hate Your Body

Yesterday in the mail, Mr. P received a thick pamphlet from Victoria’s Secret with a coupon for a Free Panty. “Why is this addressed to me?” Mr. P asked, handing it me.

I cocked an eyebrow and asked with mock insinuation, “Is there something you want to share with me?” Of course we both knew it was a remnant of that magical time early in our relationship, when he would buy me panties and negligees and I would buy him wine guides and waffle makers as we wooed each other on our way to the altar. Now, as the memory of the honeymoon wanes and we remain bound together by our love, our history, and our mutual fear of lawyers, I get residual Free Panty offers and he gets home-cooked meals featuring carb-free fare like pan-fried giblets and meatza.

The coupon is promoting Victoria’s Secret’s latest collection, called “I Love My Body” by Victoria (here). See, you can’t really tell from the pouty look of stupefaction on this woman’s face, but she just loves her body. And ladies, doesn’t she just inspire you to love your body, too?

I wanted to throw the cursed tract into the recycling right then and there, but what woman can resist free panties? I ripped open the mailing to find the terms and conditions of my complimentary undergarment. That’s when I gleaned a lick of hope that this whole “I Love My Body” by Victoria thing wasn’t just about long-limbed stick thin women with big perky breasts loving their bodies, but “Every Body” loving their bodies, like Dove Soap’s legendary Campaign for Real Beauty. ”

A Body for Every Body?! Has a societal tide been swayed by the backlash against impossible beauty standards? Is Victoria’s Secret becoming inclusive of body types other than the traditional busty toothpick? Umm…

Apparently not. That’s when I realized that Victoria’s Secret doesn’t want me to actually love my body. Why would they? I mean, if I truly loved my modest bustline that is slowly succumbing to gravity, would I feel compelled to mutate its appearance so it more perfectly fits into an abstract ideal? No, they want me to love their bras, which they euphemistically call “bodies.” What a mind fuck.

Anyway… my intellectual outrage just can’t stand up against free panties. I guess we really are the weaker sex.

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Cold Wars

So the Vancouver Winter Olympics have come to an end. Life returns to normal. Americans can go back to forgetting about the existence of roughly a dozen arcane winter sports, Canadians can go back to being a boring place where nothing ever happens, and Norway can go back to XC skiing, which is apparently all that anyone in the country of 5 million ever does. Seriously, what a bunch of fiends.

And Russia can go back to the days of the Gulag, after an enraged Russian Prime Minister Medvedev spoke about his country’s dismal performance in rather omnious terms (here): “Those who are responsible for training for the Olympics must take responsibility. They must have the courage to submit their resignation. And if they do not have this resolve, we will help them.”

Medvedev is so going to go soviet on their asses.

Even better was the Russian hockey coach, who threatened to publicly execute his team in Red Square after they lost to Canada 7-3. I think the Americans should follow suit, and send a strong message to the US men’s and women’s curling teams that we’re not going to keep on tolerating failure on the curling rink. Curlers better start bring home some medals or they’ll be drawn and quartered on the National Mall .

Of course, if anyone deserves physical punishment for their Olympic performance, it is the French short track team. Every time I watched Apolo Onho battle those wily South Koreans in men’s short track, there was always some French guy wiping out on the ice and taking some unfortunate Canadian with him. It was inevitable. “These French fall like dominos” became our household’s Olympic anthem (sung to the tune of These Girls Fall Like Dominoes).

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The Imperfect Storm

New Hampshire finally got the snow they’ve been waiting for, with upwards of 2 feet of wet, fluffy stuff plopping down during this past week’s multi-day Nor’Easter. Unfortunately for the snow sporting folk, the snow was followed by a day of rain. An imperfect storm.

Our favorite XC ski area in southern New Hampshire strategized carefully to preserve as much snow as possible in the borderline conditions, grooming selectively. Not a good day to leave the backcountry skies at home, as none of our favorite trails were groomed, and we were wearing our piddly skating skis.

Here’s a rare picture of Mr. P falling!  Not that I didn’t take my fair share of spills on the ungroomed open slope, riddled as it was with pockmarks and ice pools. “Look, it’s Lindsey Vonn!” he called as I careened into a plush pillowy snow bank, to the amusement of a group of high schoolers (who, I must add, crashed way more than I did).

Here I am at the pinnacle of the open slope, looking out upon Mount Monadnock.

The XC skiing area was packed and there were a lot of characters out on the trails today. Sometime after noon, big fatty flakes started to float down from the sky, and I felt that finally, winter has arrived.

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The Student Has Become the Teacher

This past week I spent some time in an elementary school, training teachers in the use of my company’s reading software. The training went well, although nagging childhood nostalgia constantly threatened to decimate my attention. Elementary school: that magical time when the classroom teacher is beloved and her favor is curried, when it’s cool to be a good student, and when you don’t have to take a shower after gym class. Recess is taken for granted, doodling is a legitimate academic pursuit, and the social scene is fueled by cupcakes and pool parties, not by a fraught tincture of hormones and peer pressure.

When I entered the school, a taut line of children filed past me, silent and purposeful, conjuring instant memories of that weird time in life when you and your classmates could not transition from place to place without forming a line. (Sort of like living in Japan, I guess.)

The training was held in the school’s computer lab, which provoked wonder instead of nostalgia. Why, when I was in elementary school, the school had exactly one computer, and it sat in the library as if on exhibition. I have no idea if it served any practical purpose. We learned exactly three things about computers in elementary school: “This, children, is a computer,” said the librarian, pointing at the behemoth hot mess of plastic and fans. “This is a floppy disk,” she explains further, holding one up for our inspection. And, “You must never, ever touch the shiny parts of the floppy disk.”

This modern computer lab was well-furnished with 20+ compact personal computers and various audio-visual equipment. A color-laden bulletin board displayed grade-by-grade benchmarks for computer skills, such as “Kindergarten: learn to use mouse, logon, logout, start programs.” I felt vaguely threatened by these cyber-savvy kids, getting a 10-year head start on me. I remember my big challenge in kindergarten was using scissors.

It was a little surreal dealing with the teachers and school administrators as an equal; I felt residually cowed by their authority. The shoe was on the other foot — I was teaching them — and it wasn’t a shoe that I’d like to wear every day. Things went well, although…. teachers. Once they get to chatting, they are incorrigible.

When the training was over, the magnificent principal accompanied us out of the building. We passed lines of students as they snaked their way through the corridors. The kids looked at the principal with God-like respect, and — how pathetic am I?– I felt kinda cool for walking with the principal: that’s right, kids. I’m important. Then I felt truly cool because I realized that I’m playing some, tiny part in teaching these kids how to read. And I haven’t been that cool in school since the second grade, when my mom made ice cream cone cupcakes to celebrate my birthday with the class.

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You Down With OPP?

Other People’s Poetry!

Five Haiku

The wind
Undecided
Rolls a cigarette of air
The mute girl talks:
It is art’s imperfection.
This impenetrable speech.
The motor car is truly launched:
Four martyrs’ heads
Roll under the wheels.
Ah! a thousand flames, a fire,
The light, a shadow!
The sun is following me.
A feather gives to a hat
A touch of lightness:
The chimney smokes.

–Paul Eluard

Beautiful Women
WOMEN sit, or move to and fro—some old, some young;
The young are beautiful—but the old are more beautiful than the young.

–Walt Whitman

Restless
It is that perennial immateriality dwelling between living and dying
crouched in the corners and grappling by the hinges
only to remain unseen;
We weave our web of what we believe we understand
of the relationship of our acts and events
only to remain misunderstood;
From that odd wisp of steam of heated discussions
to the urgent hiss of a new page calling;
I teeter on that thin ice —
That single space of uncertainty —
And I ask
“What am I doing here?”.
–Cecilia Borromeo

The World is Filled With Unattended Packages

Wind is all we know these days. Ignore the snow, the cold,
but not the wind. In the fallow of pre-spring wood, we strolled
vulnerable, exposed, the wind catenating our quest
with the disquieting exaction of an uninvited guest.

And when my face shakes, it is the wind. When
I drift from your mouth and the words within,
it is not betrayal that the rebuff imparts.
It is the wind, chilling souls and racking hearts.

–Me

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Watchtowers

Time is a universal construct by which we all abide. I know people who freely flout societal conventions regarding food, dress, language, education, employment, family, religion, sexuality, and amusement. But I’ve never met anyone who did not bow, somehow, to the clock.

I get a cozy feeling when a stranger asks me for the time and I give it to them. This fleeting pleasure of random human connectivity has become rare with the increasing ubiquity of cell phones and other personal electronic devices. We are all constantly, even painfully aware of what time it is.

The center of my town has three public clocks. All three are malfunctioning. This, too, is a sign of the times.

Clock #1 – Jewelry Store – defunct

The jewelry store’s heyday is decades past; it survives on repairs and loyal customers buying presents for their granddaughters. The display in the window features birthstone earrings, heart-shaped pendants, and other dull ornaments that can be easily afforded on two week’s allowance. Peek inside further, and you will see sparse jewelry cases with a token inventory of rings, watches, and pendants; you may see the elderly owners in conversation with an elderly gent from the neighborhood who stopped by on his daily constitutional to say howdy.

Given the store’s location in the heart of a traditionally Catholic middle-class town, it has probably always been an utilitarian jewelry store, for practical baubles. A confirmation cross for the son, pearl studs for the daughter’s Sweet Sixteen, maybe a costume jewelry stickpin for the wife’s birthday. The bare-bones analog clock on the store’s marquee, with stark ticks in lieu of numbers, serves as a reminder of how nice it is to know the time, and speaking of which, would you like to buy a watch?

But the clock has been stuck at ten til six since last fall. There is a tragic irony, that this ma-and-pa jewelry store that subsists on watch repairs has yet to repair its own.

Clock #2 – Unitarian Church – impaired

The town’s most prominent clock is on the bell tower of the Unitarian church, which sits on a corner of a major intersection. I like that the Unitarian church displays a clock, for it is a fitting emblem for a pseudo-religious sect who always keeps one hand firmly planted in hard scientific reality.

We went to this Unitarian church for services once. We couldn’t see ourselves going regularly; the small tight-knit congregation seemed emotionally needy, with nearly half of the service devoted to public confessions, soapboxing, and pleas for spiritually-sanitized prayer.  I really wanted to like this church because I have a history with Unitarianism, but also because of the clock. How many times have I passed this clock on my way to the bike path and relied on it for the time? So simple, yet so comforting in its reliable constantness.

Now, the Unitarian church’s clock is broken. It displays a different time every time that I look at it, but it’s never the right time, and there is no pattern to its aberrance. But I still look at it whenever I pass it, just to see if it has been fixed.

Clock #3 – Citizen’s Bank – spazzy

And further down the town’s main thoroughfare, a Citizen’s Bank displays a digital clock that alternates showing the time and temperature. We’ve all seen these outside of banks. They’re meant to convey the sense that this bank is knowledgeable, helpful, and ready to serve the community at-large. They can give you a checking account, a mortgage, and tell you if you need a hat.

As the ma-and-pa stores are being siphoned out of existence by the big-box supercenters, the physical shells that they leave behind are usually always replaced by a restaurant or a bank. In this age of 1-800 numbers and online checking accounts, the increasing prevalence of banking locations has always puzzled me. Perhaps these are relics of the financial bubble that so spectacularly exploded; each institution wanted to strategically tap into every community in the country to offer it risky credit.

The clock’s lighting devices are in desperate need of maintenance, as each number is missing a telltale part that would distinguish, say, a 6 from a 9,  or a 2 from a 3. Although this can make the temperature display pretty vague, a thinking person can usually piece together the correct time.

Still, there is something unseemly about this clock in the front of the bank, as it flashes its cyrptic runes to the town which it purports to serve with equal parts helplessness and disdain.

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